I Love You But I Hate the Book You Recommended


I read a funny article in the Guardian book blog today:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/booksblog/2010/aug/18/book-recommendations-go-wrong

The author contemplates the existential questions that arise when someone you love recommends a book that you don’t. He asks: “Does this mean, when a fellow book lover gives you a book you hate, the person didn’t really know you, or had an erroneous idea of you in their mind? Does it mean you don’t really know yourself? Does it mean the self is fundamentally unknowable, at least through the contents of a bookshelf?”

This cracked me up.

He uses as an example The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera, a book given to him by a quasi-romantic interest, and one which he has tried numerous times to read but has never finished because…he doesn’t like it.

I can relate to this because my brother, you know, the one noted in earlier posts who won’t read used books and never goes to the library, gave me that book as a gift. Now I’m not sure he had read it, so technically it wasn’t a recommendation–and I imagine gifted books raise different existential questions than recommended books. Anyway, I absolutely could not get through it. And I really, really persevered, and was terribly disappointed that I had done so because I ended up finally just closing it with a thump! that’s it!–I cannot read another word of this unintelligible rot.

Here’s a confession, though–I feel like this is a book I should read, and I do feel that I will pick it up again one day and get through it. And maybe even understand it.

But what about when I am recommending an entire year’s worth of books for my book group members to read? That’s a lot of pressure! What if they don’t like what I’ve chosen? Yikes!

Well, we all know that you can’t please all the people all the time, and over the years some members have, believe it or not, disliked some of my choices. I know, I know, hard to believe but there you are. Anyway, I take the advice that I would give to anyone else. I use criteria by which to judge a book–for instance this year we are reading contemporary prize winners–and if I’ve stuck to that criteria and if I find the book is literary and worth reading–and worth discussing–then I really don’t worry about whether someone likes it or not.

You see, I don’t think reading a book should necessarily be easy, and I don’t think books worth reading should necessarily be likable. I think books should makes us think, make us feel, make us wonder, make us question, make us…change.

Yes, I will definitely pick up The Unbearable Lightness of Being again–and I will finish it!

What do you think? Is it important for you to like what you’re reading?

The Slap by Christos Tsiolkas


The Slap won the Australian Literary Society Gold Medal. Really?

The Slap was shortlisted for the Miles Franklin Award and the Colin Roderick Award. Really??

The Slap is currently on the long list for the Man Booker Prize. Really???

I’m sorry, but I just don’t get it. I found myself speed-reading this book to get it over with, and I cannot recommend it at all. Not at all.

Quick plot summary: Somewhere in the suburbs of Australia, a little boy is slapped at a BBQ by a man who is not his father. This event is used by the author as a device to delve into the lives of the novel’s characters, eight of whom become the individual, central focus of a chapter of the book. The slap itself becomes a sort of signifier as each character places his or her meaning upon it and simultaneously takes from it what he or she wants.

Forget the seediness of the characters. Forget the ubiquitous and uninteresting sex scenes. Forget all the drug use. Forget the self-destruction running rampant through the novel. I wouldn’t have a problem with any of this–not if the book were well written. But it’s not. At times I thought Tsiolkas was trying to write a short story in each chapter, threading the slap through them all–to bind them together. But the chapters weren’t interesting enough on their own to survive such a structure.

Instead of using the entire novel to build and develop the life of an individual character, he tried to cram it all into the one chapter devoted to that character’s point of view. The result was tedious and boring. I didn’t care about the characters, and consequently, I didn’t care about the novel.

And I couldn’t help thinking, even as I read the female voices of the novel, that this book just screams out that it was written by a man. When I’m hearing the author’s voice overriding the narrators’ voices, that’s a problem, isn’t it?

Perhaps this novel is meant to be some sort of mosaic or kaleidoscopic look at modern Australian society. Maybe. Again, I find I really don’t care.

This was my “beach read” this summer. Hmm…I need another vacation. How about you? What was your “beach read”?

Brooklyn by Colm Toibin


I had come across this title a few times while perusing the long and short lists for award-winning fiction. However, the description–something about Ireland, a priest, a move to New York–put me off reading it. It was while reviewing the Guardian’s article on authors recommending just two reads for the summer that it caught my eye again. I believe Tom Stoppard called this novel “flawless.”

Far be it from me to argue with Tom Stoppard, so I won’t delve into whether I think it’s flawless or not, but I will say it is a touching, thought-provoking, wonderful book. It evoked A Tree Grows in Brooklyn more than once for me, with its descriptions of New York, seen through the eyes of innocence. The atmosphere of the book absolutely captivated me.

Quick plot review: It’s the fifties in Ireland. Eilis’ family decides it’s time for her to make her way in the world, and what better place to do it than in Brooklyn, USA, the land of promise–and where the local Irish priest has many contacts who can help Eilis get settled.

Before she knows it, Eilis finds herself sick as a dog on a ship crossing the ocean.

Toibin is able to render Eilis’ experience so that the reader feels she is going through it herself. But what is so nice, so refreshing, is that after a while I realized that nothing shocking or violent or predictable was going to happen. Eilis was quite successfully making her way in the world, the New World at that.

She does well at work, she has a nice place to live, and she meets and falls for Tony, a sweet Italian boy.

Then an event calls her back to Ireland. I’m not giving anything away–the book jacket tells you this much. What it doesn’t tell you is now the book gets really, really good. No more black and white–grey enters the scene big-time.

One of my favorite books is Old School by Tobias Wolff. The main character does something that made me, as the reader, want to jump into the book and shout “stop!–don’t you see what you’re doing?” I had that same feeling while I was reading Brooklyn; I literally felt afraid for Eilis. I can’t say more without giving some of it away, so I’ll stop here.

Suffice to say, I heartily recommend this book. And with both Tom Stoppard and I recommending it, you’re going to read it, right?

By Nightfall by Michael Cunningham


I recently got my hands on the ARC (advanced readers’ copy) of Michael Cunningham’s new novel, By Nightfall. I know, I know–eat your hearts out. Seriously, don’t despair; you won’t have to wait long as it will be in bookstores in October.

This is a very good book, thoroughly readable. What’s it about, you ask? Well, very quickly:

Rebecca and Peter are living in Manhattan. Of course they are, because Michael Cunningham’s descriptions of that city take the reader there to an extent that rivals Ian McEwan’s ability to transport the reader to (and through) London in Saturday. In my opinion, that’s an achievement.

Rebecca and Peter are middle-aged, or getting there, long-married with a daughter freshly flown from the coop, and are both working “in the arts”–she is a magazine editor; he owns an art gallery and dreams of one day discovering that historically important artist that will transcend time, place, and the mediocrity of life.

Ahh, the mediocrity of life. It looms ever greater as a final destination the more into “middle-age” one advances.

Rebecca’s brother, Ethan, aka the Mistake, or Mizzy, comes to visit. And there begins the tale…Although I cannot recall at the moment why Ethan’s family calls him the Mistake, what is more important is that he conjures for others their own. Mistakes, that is. In life. The takes and mis-takes that lead one to live an absolutely ordinary, mediocre life.

And thus, Peter finds himself at a crux. The effect Mizzy has on Peter (I won’t give away a huge part of the book right here–even though I saw it coming like a train entering a station) is life-altering. Should Peter go off to risk finding the extraordinary? Or should he settle for his everyday, pleasant, but let’s face it, hardly amazing life?

It strikes me that this book is like a coming-of-age novel, but for middle-agers–people who haven’t been innocent for quite a while, but who still harbor some notion of the existence, in themselves or others, of the ideal. And this book is about what happens when they realize that hey, that Paradise is just an illusion. You took a bite out of the apple a long time ago and this is the world that is yours. From a hopeful standpoint, though, that world, your life, although not ideal, can still be wonderful and full of beauty.

How about you? Are you still searching for an ideal life?

WHIRL 6

My goodness, I haven’t WHIRLed in ages! It isn’t for lack of reading, I assure you. Hmm…shall I blame World Cup Fever, still rampaging through my house? Yes, that must be it.

So, here I WHIRL, but you may be disappointed for the moment, because I have read so many wonderful books, books that I have on my shortlist for this season’s book groups, so I can’t tell you those titles yet.

For instance, there’s a book by one of my favorite American authors that I just loved, loved, loved! That will definitely be on my list.

Then the book by the author from Zimbabwe–I picked it up and read for two days straight without putting it down. Or so it seemed, anyway. You know, one of those great novels that you can’t pull yourself away from. I may be putting that one on my list.

Tinkers by Paul Harding. This novel won the Pulitzer Prize this year, so I was excited to read it. Hmm…not loving it. And this is the second time I have picked it up–I am somewhat determined to get through it. Somewhat. We’ll see.

The Appointment by Herta Muller. She was born in Romania and won the Nobel Prize, so I was really excited to read her. I am enjoying, not loving, this book, but I just don’t think I will subject my book groups to it. I think I’d meet too much resistance.

Another novel by a Man Booker Prize winner–an English author whom I had never read before. Glad I picked this one up–I think it will end up on my list.

Chronicle in Stone by Ismail Kadare. Kadare is an Albanian author who has received numerous awards, one of which is the International Man Booker Prize, awarded every other year. Although I won’t be putting this book on my list, I am really enjoying it. The story is narrated by a young Albanian boy who is chronicling what is happening to his village during WWII. What I love about this book is the boy’s imagination, which of course hasn’t been squashed by any adult logic. It’s making me look at everything–stones and all–with a new eye.

I have never read any Joyce Carol Oates and I feel like I should! So I picked up Blackwater but got distracted, and then picked up another one, can’t remember the title right now, but then got distracted. Oates is seriously prolific and I know she is loved, but I need some guidance here. Have you read her and can you recommend a title I should read?

What about YOU? Are you ready to WHIRL?

Sporting Advice

It’s World Cup fever in my house. As I blog, New Zealand is on its way to a huge upset of Italy. Hard not to root for the underdog. Right, I may have to rethink this–as I glanced up from my laptop to the TV, the shot was on the crowd–about a dozen bare-chested, overweight New Zealand men, waving their shirts in the air. Not a pretty sight.

But I digress.

For a while we had basketball fever in my house as well. But then the Lakers wrapped it all up in the seventh (rather exciting) game against the Boston Celtics. With all the in-your-face technology available these days, the TV viewer was able to hear what the coaches were saying to the players at time-outs.

Doc Rivers told his team at one critical point that he didn’t want any heroes. That they should play together. As a team.

For some reason that resonated with me. I got to thinking about the question from Elyse, one of my book group members, our very first meeting. What makes a really good discussion?

Well, one thing that helps is when the group converses as a team. That sounds sort of strange, but if you think about it, it’s true. If someone shows up with the mindset of being a hero–of dominating the discussion with her opinion, of being “right” in her interpretation of the book, in short–if someone shows up with an open gob but a closed mind–then the conversation will suffer.

So arrive at your next meeting with an open and curious mind. Really listen to what others say before responding, and try to remark upon–and dig deeper into–what they are saying. This sounds simple but takes some practice. Many members just want to speak what’s on their minds rather than engage with what has been said by someone else. However, following one topic to it’s conclusion before moving on to another can result in a much more fruitful conversation for everyone.

So thanks, Coach Rivers, for the tip. The Lakers, coached by Phil Jackson, went on to take the championship, so let’s give a nod to Coach Jackson also. He has coached more championship teams than any other coach in sports. So, he must be doing something right. To find out more, log onto http://www.amazon.com and see the books he’s written. And if you read any of them, don’t forget to WHIRL!

Literary Masters of the Future

There’s an interesting article in the New York Times today about The New Yorker‘s upcoming issue in which twenty fiction writers under the age of forty are named as “ones to watch.”

Here’s the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/03/books/03under.html?hpw

According to the NY Times article, this is a big deal because it’s been over ten years since The New Yorker last named any “writers to watch.” So, looking at that list is pretty interesting. Jhumpa Lahiri was on it, one of my favorite authors. Have you read Interpreter of Maladies or The Namesake? How about Unaccustomed Earth? I have a very funny story about calling into NPR when Michael Krasny was interviewing Jhumpa on Forum. Remind me to tell it to you sometime.

Another fave on that list: Junot Diaz. We all loved The Brief and Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, but how about his collection of short stories, Drown? Have you read that?

Jeffrey Eugenides was on it (loved Middlesex!), as was Nathan Englander, one of my favorite short story authors.

I am going to take a close look at this year’s list–if the last list is anything to go by, The New Yorker knows what it’s talking about. Perhaps we’ll all read these “writers to watch” in our future Literary Masters book groups!

Wishful Thinking for Summer Reading

You know what I feel like doing? I feel like curling up with The Raj Quartet by Paul Scott, all 1926 pages of it, and reading it from one end to the other. I took it out of the library the other day, something I’ve meant to do ever since I watched The Jewel in the Crown, the British TV series that I was obsessed with–I had to watch every single episode (again, taken from my wonderful local library) right through from the beginning to the end of the series. I was so sad when it was over, and I wanted more!

Anyway, I was meandering among the fiction shelves and I saw it–The Raj Quartet. By page nine I was hooked. I felt like I was India. I could feel the heat, see the dust. Oh, what a wonderful way to spend a summer. I put it back on the shelf, though. I am being disciplined, as I have a lot of other reading to do. You all know by now that I am furiously reading award-winning books to choose my list for next season’s book groups.

SEE HOW MUCH I SACRIFICE FOR YOU?

The four books within the quartet are titled: The Jewel in the Crown, The Day of the Scorpion, The Towers of Silence, and A Division of the Spoils.

Oh, and if you haven’t yet seen the television series, RUN, do not walk, but RUN, knocking down everyone in your way, to your local library or video store to procure it. Or I guess you can Netflix it or some other less energetic way of getting your hands on it. Anyway, get it and watch it–you will thank me.

Wrapping Up The Brief and Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao

The Brief and Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz is truly a wonderful book. All my book groups enjoyed it, and the conversations were lively, opinionated, and everyone had something to say. It’s interesting how differently individuals reacted to this book. Some found it angry while others hadn’t seen that part of it. Some found it hilarious although tragic. Some found it depressing. Just about everyone found it to be an interesting read. A real page-turner.

I’ll highlight below some of the points that were made in the various groups. You may or may not agree with them:

This really isn’t Oscar’s story. It’s Yunior’s story. You can hear his voice change, grow, as he narrates the book, and you can watch him change and grow, too. He comes to terms with who he is as a Dominican man.

Although the men acted macho, this story just underscored that it was all an act, a role they were playing, a mask they were wearing. The women were the really strong characters in the story. They were the ones who, although severely restricted to a limited space by the patriarchal society in which they lived, took action when action was called for. The results weren’t always great, but at least they did something.

Lola took on her masks, “performing” to others’ expectations, until she figured out how to be true to herself. Oscar was the only one who didn’t wear a mask, who didn’t play a role, perhaps because he didn’t know how to.

The question of complicity came up. And destiny. How much control do we really have over our lives? How much control must we cede to others? We talked about how Trujillo was a brutal dictator, but the Dominicans helped elevate him to mythological status with their stories about him.

Speaking of stories, and histories, and TRUTH, we talked about the structure of the book, especially the narrator and how he mediated the voices of the other characters coming through him.

What stories do we tell our ourselves? We talked about this, and the reason we tell ourselves stories.

We were all interested in the Macombo (magical realism elements) versus McOndo (gritty, street-wise realism) that are opposed to each other yet work side-by-side in this novel.

Oh gosh, we talked about much more: themes of identity, belonging, the “space in between,” authority–I couldn’t help but view the book through the lens of post-colonialism. And we talked about the brilliance of Junot Diaz. One of my members blurted out that she just so wished she could speak to him–a bit ironic, I thought, as we were talking about authority and how we give it over to others!

Bottom line: Run, don’t walk, to read this book; it’s amazing.

WHIRL 4

Wow! April is flying by! And I’ve been neglecting my blog! I’m so sorry to all of you–how have you survived? Have you had to turn to other reading? Hmmm, read anything good lately? Hmmm, What Have I Read Lately?

Ask, by Sam Lipsyte. Last time I WHIRLED, I was mid-way through this novel. Well, I finished it, and I would recommend it, sort of. I’d give it say, a 7 out of 10.

Solar, by Ian McEwan. I know the critics have panned it, but I think this novel is the funniest book I have read since Portnoy’s Complaint. Run. Do not walk. Run to get your hands on this book.

Another book, an award-winner, the title of which I am not revealing because it was so good, I am using it for my next season of Literary Masters book groups. Join one of my groups if you want to know which book it is. 🙂

How about you? Are you ready to WHIRL? Let me know what you’ve been reading lately.